Category: Thoughts about what I’m reading

A good story is about relationships

Someone told me recently that they didn’t like books with any romance. It made me a little sad because everyone needs a little romance.

But it also made me a little philoshophical about stories and relationships.

Some say there are only seven possible types of conflict used in any story.

  • person vs. person
  • person vs. him or herself
  • person vs. nature
  • person vs. society
  • person vs. technology
  • person vs. supernatural world
  • person vs. destiny

Person vs. person is obviously a story about a relationship, no matter what genre we’re reading. Sometimes it’s about love, but sometimes it’s adversarial or competitive. If so, it may end with someone winning and someone losing, but it is still about people learning about each other and dealing with each other.

A story with person vs. him or herself conflict is about that important relationship with ourselves.

The other 5 kinds of conflict might seem trickier at first. But if our main character is dealing with nature, society, technology, the supernatural world, or destiny, three things can be true of that story.

Either that conflicting thing is anthropomorphized–given human characteristics. In this case, the story becomes, in effect, a person vs. person conflict. (Moby Dick, by Herman Melville).

Although in this very complex novel, we meet more than one type of conflict. Ahab vs. Moby Dick (a malevolent God or destiny), but it is also about Ishmael, Queequeg, and the other sailors, their relationships with each other and with themselves. And it is about Ahab’s relationship with himself, his anger and fear.

Another possibility is that that entity (society or technology, etc.) is embodied or typified by one person. (President Snow in Hunger Games, by Suzanne Collins becomes the figurehead for a society).

President Snow | The Wondrous Universe Wiki | Fandom

I wonder if, at heart, all of these faceless conflicts are really about our main character learning about him or herself. The story just happens to be set in a world of technology or supernatural happenings, or the other conflicting entities.

(Think about Louie in Unbroken, by Laura Hillenbrand. The outward conflict with his captors is at the forefront, but what he learns about himself might be what makes the story so enduring).

I’ll add this: If the conflict is person vs destiny (or possibly sometimes vs supernatural), it might be about a relationship with some kind of divine presence–still a relationship.

This is a theory, which means you might prove me wrong. I’d love to hear what you think. Have you ever read or viewed a story that isn’t about relationships?

If not, what is your favorite story relationship?

What Moments Have Changed You?

Beautiful Alpine Photo by Gayelynn Watson

This week in our book group, I led the discussion on The Power of Moments, by Chip and Dan Heath. Now, as a student, and lover, and writer of fiction, I usually limit how many non-fiction and self-help books I will read in any given year. Some people are the opposite. They feel that unless a book is “true,” they are wasting their time reading it. Maybe I’ll write another post on another day about what I believe are the differences between factual and true, but for today, I’ll just say I have found some of the greatest, realest truths in well-written fiction. As Stephen King says, “Fiction is the truth inside the lie.” So, I will continue to choose to read fiction most of the time. Except, this year:

The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact
The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact
by Chip Heath and Dan Heath  Image from Amazon Books

The Power of Moments is not fiction, but it landed in my lap, so to speak, and so I started it, fully expecting to put it down before long. Honestly, that’s what I thought, but I found it very readable, entertaining, thought-provoking, at times even inspiring. More than that, it caused me to make some changes in my life. I’m not sure you could say anything better about a book.

A brief synopsis: The Heath brothers explore the moments in our lives that are memorable. –An aside: Most of those really memorable moment happen when we’re young–but while so many of our experiences when we are young are about growth and change, that doesn’t mean we can’t have powerful moments as we grow older– They break down what makes a moment memorable, and at times life changing. These are the elements that singly or combined will make a moment stand out: Elevation, Insight, Pride, Connection. The authors have some wonderful examples that illustrate each of these elements. They go on to suggest, and show, how we might create more powerful moments in our lives and the lives of those we work with and for, and those we love.

One of the changes I made was to step up, and take more seriously, my writing. I had a moment when I turned fifty. (Not every moment is a happy high point. Some are a sudden realization that you are not happy where you are and need to change). I decided I was running out of time if I really did want to write. So I started and stopped, started and stopped. And then I read this book and got serious. I now write, (or edit) at least a little, every day.

Screenshot of the beginning of Chapter 1 of The Secrets We Keep
Taking a break from work at the cabin.

Another was to try to create and provide some memorable, unifying moments for my children and grandchildren,

Look at that face. Rhyat is having a moment.

To record and learn from some precious memories,

What a wonderful week with our Alberta, Canada missionaries.

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And to reconnect with old friends.

So, I’ve been thinking about powerful moments. Moments that were different/special and elevated from the normal, moments where I had a sudden insight–and make a change because of it, moments where I felt a sense of pride in accomplishment and celebrated growth, or moments of deep connection.

What are the powerful moments in your past? Who did you share them with? Are you still trying to create powerful moments? Who will you share these with?

Can We Enjoy Poems Again?

Do you remember studying poetry in school? Do you cringe?  I think two activities have added to our negative feelings about poetry: the deconstruction exercises we do/have done in school where we are asked to take a perfectly crafted and evocative poem, pull it apart, and point out every poetic device so that we can “interpret” it. And then our understanding of the poem is judged by some little understood yardstick. Often, we are required to bare our souls in the writing and sharing of a poem. 

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And speaking of Harry Potter

We recently had dinner with a family who are big fans, might I say obsessive fans of the Harry Potter series. I have enjoyed reading Harry Potter myself. I believe J.K. Rowling is a gifted storyteller. So, this may seem somewhat random, even contradictory, and I realize that I’m speaking of what to some is sacred ground, but I am just going to put this out there and take the flak. I’m talking about Harry Potter. I just struggled with the end of that series.  I’ve thought a lot about it because, hey, it’s Harry Potter, and everyone just raved (still raves) about it.  And it is an engaging series. Let me just say in my defense that I really like the Harry Potter series.  The books are clever and egrossing, but I really, really was disappointed with that climactic scene in Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows.

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