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Late night Insight: the tale of the French door, or what kind of writer are you?

I may have mentioned that friends of ours offered to sell us their cabin. If I were to use an euphemism, I’d call it a fixer-upper. And that is what we have spent a lot of time doing this summer–fixing up our cabin.

Photo by Gayelynn Watson on October 30, 2020. Image may contain: sky, house and outdoor.
We are in process of building/replacing the decks.

It’s a sweet little cabin in a fabulously beautiful area. I love it.

But it is a lot, I repeat, a lot of work. When we got it, there were no footings or foundation under half the cabin. Our friend had decided to dig out under the cabin and create a basement space, and the cabin was sitting on screw jacks (think stilts). That was our first order of business–to get the building on a foundation and get it weather tight before winter. We bought in July and worked all summer/fall on it.

So this last weekend, we installed French doors in the now enclosed basement. And I had a sudden writing/personality insight. Sometimes that happens late at night. I thought I’d tell you what I learned.

Photo by Gayelynn Watson on November 01, 2020. Image may contain: outdoor.

Friday night after regular work, we changed into construction clothes and began to physically work. French doors are harder to install than a single door, and my Mister had to build a frame for the doorway. We measured and measured again, cut and nailed the frame together. We lifted it into place. Then we took it down and measured and cut again. Then when the doors were installed and level, we found they didn’t meet equally at the top and bottom. This was a longer process than we’d anticipated, and it was getting late, and it was getting cold. (The altitude at the cabin is 8500 feet. It can get really cold).

So, I was tired, freezing, and frustrated, and I thought, “There is a point of diminishing returns. We are just hitting our heads against a brick wall. We should stop now. We should go in and get warm and get a good night sleep. We could let this problem percolate, and the solution will come to us. We’ll begin again in the morning when we are fresh. Everything will go smoother.” That’s what I thought.

But Mister Watson can’t, literally can’t leave a project half finished. It’s that Idaho farm boy mentality. Once he begins something, he’s going to muscle through, no matter how difficult, how frustrating, how late, how cold. He may snarl and grip, but he will finish that work! Well as you can see, he did finish it. It was late, but he slept in peace.

Now one of us is much, much more productive in life. And one of us is much more relaxed and easy going. Guess which is which.

I will say that mostly I am content with my personality. I don’t experience much stress or anxiety. I am happy most of the time. But I think in my writing I should work a little more to follow my husband’s example. I often write myself into a little brick wall. I think, “I’ve been sitting here staring at this screen for long enough. This is hard, and I am tired. If I just quit today and let the problem percolate a little, maybe the solution will come to me. Sometimes “percolating” lasts longer than one day. And I end up writing in fits and starts.

But every writer knows, at least theoretically, that the first draft just needs to be written. I know I just need to push through and write something. It’s okay if it’s garbage. That’s why we edit–and you can’t edit a blank page (and a dozen other quotes). I know I need to set that daily writing goal and keep writing until I reach the finish line, even when I’m hitting my head against that brick wall. In writing I need to be an Idaho farm girl and just refuse to stop until the job (daily goal) is accomplished.

French doors and late night insights at the cabin.

Which are you? Do you take a break and come back fresh? or Do you muscle through and get it done? And if you do that, do you have any tips for those of us who are trying to change our writing personality?

How do you feel about Halloween?

Photo by Natalie Nelson on October 13, 2020. Image may contain: 1 person, standing and outdoor.
Photo @cheznousimages or cheznousimages.com

Ghosts? Ghouls? Witches? Demons? Scary movies? Candy and more candy? Does that sound fun to you?

How about orange, black, purple and neon green? That’s enough to give anyone nightmares, although I suppose that’s the point.

In case you haven’t guessed yet, I’ve never been a fan of this particular holiday.

Along with the above mentioned highlights of the season, there is what for me was always a mad scramble to make costumes for my multitude of children. And my children never wanted to be a ghost or a witch. Some of the random, unique costumes in our family history include: Paul Bunyon (we were reading a book), Mona Lisa (complete with frame), a toilet (candy went into the bowl), and as weird as it sounds, Ghengis Khan. I’m pretty sure our neighbors didn’t always recognize what they were seeing.

We used what we had and needed a lot of creativity. Okay, looking back I kind of liked this part of Halloween. We made some good family memories creating our children’s vision from what we had around the house. However, I do remember being especially frustrated because the day before Halloween, the weather would turn, and the costumes would be covered with coats.

Photo by Natalie Nelson on October 13, 2020. Image may contain: 5 people, people standing and child.
Photo @cheznousimages or cheznousimages.com

One year I made the mistake of sewing a Legolas costume for our youngest son, who was six at the time. You must understand that we are one of those zealous Lord of the Rings fan families. We are passionate about the book and the movie, and I got a little carried away. I researched costumes from the movies and tried to be as authentic as my limited funds and time would allow, even down to sewing the leaf motif on the hem of the tunic. Mr. Watson even got into the spirit and made two wood swords and helped me with the bow, arrows and quiver.

Ever after, this particular son thought this detailed and accurate kind of costume was the norm. One year he wanted to be a War of 1812 soldier. I ask you, War of 1812? (which by the way falls right in the Regency period, which is where I’m spending a lot of time these days, but I don’t want to make the clothes. I’ll just mention details from time to time in my books). Poor disappointed Devon. He had to be a WWI bomber pilot that year because someone gave us a leather jacket.

So, if you ask I will probably tell you that this is my least favorite holiday, but while I write I realize that I do like the costumes, the drama, and the imagination of Halloween. I like the misty, brooding, atmospheric mystery of the season.

Photo by Natalie Nelson on October 13, 2020. Image may contain: 2 people.
Photo @cheznousimages or cheznousimages.com

I like some of the literature that comes to mind–notably Frankenstein and the poetry of Edgar Allen Poe. I even binge watched Stranger Things. And this year I’m loving these fabulous eerie photos taken by our very gifted photographer daughter @cheznousimages

Okay, maybe I do like some aspects of Halloween. Just not the candy, more candy, and the colors.

Why A Romance Novel?

I have finished my first Regency romance novel!!!

focused photo of a red rose
image by Jamie Street @Jamie452

This is a huge accomplishment for me. I haven’t sold it yet; I’m working on the query letter and research about agents and such. But the novel is complete. Alpha and Beta readers have had their say. The editor is at work.

I just want to go back two paragraphs now. Me write a Regency romance novel? Yes, yes I have. The truth is I was raised on a steady diet (provided by my mom) of romance novels. Back in the day (unnamed years ago), most romance novels were what we, today, call Clean or Sweet. Read that as the writers didn’t include sex scenes. And my mom, my sister, and I read them voraciously.

Now, some people in some circles might look down on the humble romance novel (even though it is one of the highest selling genres). I have a degree in English and I’ve spent quite a bit of time in those circles. I even love those circles and a good discussion about the literature favored in those circles. But I also love a good romance. I love the “Love Conquers All” theme. I love the search for connection, for belonging, for intimacy (since we’re talking “sweet” here, I’m talking emotional intimacy in this post). I love the struggle and bumps along the way. I just love romance.

One of my favorite things to ask people that I’m just getting to know is, “how did you meet?” Everyone’s process of meeting and falling in love seems a miracle to me. I love to hear about people’s romances.

Even though I have written a fantasy novel, which is in need of a complete rewrite, it is as much a romance as a fantasy. I have also written three children’s books–not romances, and after seven children, I like that too. But I have found a real comfort and familiarity while writing my romance novel. And the second one in the series, which is half-way written feels the same. Finding “my voice” just didn’t seem as difficult.

Exploring trust and vulnerability, trying to capture the growth of a protagonist as she opens her heart to love, following two people who struggle, and make mistakes, and compromise is exilerating.

So for the next little while I will probably be writing about my writing–my romance writing–and about the value of a good romance novel.

So tell me, how did you meet your love?

You see a Cabin. He sees a project. I see a writer’s retreat!

Whatever you call it, it is an adventure. Let me tell you about it. At the end of June some friends texted to ask if we wanted to buy their cabin. Because they are lovely people, and because the cabin is unfinished and has been empty and unused for six or seven years, they offered it to us for an astounding and generous price. We couldn’t say no, and okay we didn’t really want to say no. I have always wanted a cabin.

It needs a lot of work, so we talked with all our children to ask if they would help. We are inveterate DYIers, but this is a big project–one we didn’t feel we could do on our own. Once we got their buy-in, we bought a cabin!

Now, the plywood floors and the exposed stud and insulation walls–those are easy fixes. But years ago our friend decided to dig out under the cabin and make a basement. Two walls were in, but the rest of the cabin sat on jacks.

So, this is our project now. And I must say it’s coming along really well, and our children have been incredibly helpful. And can I just say, I love going to the cabin– even though the work is back-breaking and the conditions are a little rough (the bathrooms work and there are beds, so it’s not like we’re camping), but it is not luxury in any sense of the word.

But there is just something about stepping out of the car and taking that first breath of pine scented air. I hear the breeze through the trees and I feel a weight just lift off my shoulders. I think it’s because even though it (the work) is hard, life is simple there. And I don’t know why that is. We still have our phones. We still have our work responsibilities, but they just don’t seem as heavy up in that thinner air (8600 feet altitude).

And I dream. I dream of days of quiet when I can sit on a deck in the cool mountain breeze and write uninterrupted. It’s a ways away, but that dream rests lightly in the back of my mind.

So, I want to ask, do you have a place–a retreat where you can write? I know the daily habit is necessary (and I am working on that), but sometimes don’t you just want to get away and really write? I’d love to hear about your retreats. Or are you, like me, still working on creating that retreat.

Rock is jack hammered out and footings are poured
the beginning of the block wall foundation

Here’s hoping that creating your retreat doesn’t involve this much hard physical labor. But if it does, keep the dream alive.

Creativity and Mental Health

What are you doing to stay sane during Covid? I see masses of walkers/joggers, bikers and skateboarders out on the trail behind my home. The roads to and from the canyons in the mountains around us are busier than the freeway during rush hour. It’s always wonderful when the weather improves in the spring and we can comfortably out in nature. But this year, it felt like release from a prison.

I think many people must be finding some sanity in working in their homes and gardens. Every time we go to the local home improvement stores, the parking lots are packed. And my friends have posted some wonderful projects they have completed since the beginning of this virus. There aren’t many things more satisfying than completing a project. I’m pretty excited about some of my own projects. (A confession: sometimes I wonder if my projects are more in the nature of avoidance rather than healthy pastime). Regardless, completing any project can be very exhilarating. There is a definite shot of dopamine when I step back and see a finished work. (Below: my reupholstered chairs for the cabin)

These are effective ways to stay mentally healthy, but there is another way I want to talk about today.

Graham Greene said, “Writing is a form of therapy; sometimes I wonder how all those who do not write, compose or paint can manage to escape the madness, melancholia, the panic and fear which is inherent in a human situation.” And he wasn’t in the middle of Covid 19.

Raymond Feist said, “I won’t say that writing is therapy, but for me, the act of writing is therapy. The ability to be productive is good for my mental health. It’s always better for me to be writing than vegetating on some couch.”

Their experience is supported by research.

Ashley Stahl wrote an article in Forbes on the benefits of creativity. She listed five benefits of being creative. It increases happiness, reduces dementia, improves mental health, boosts the immune system, increases intelligence. These are benefits I want, regardless of situation, but they seem especially necessary now.

So for us writers or aspiring writers, this is the time to write more. Not only do we have more time (I will feel terrible if when we are once again involved in life on a wider scale I look back and all I have done is watch Netflix and read brain candy-both enjoyable pastimes, true-but not if that’s all we do), but writing will make us more healthy, more happy, more sane.

So, what are you writing? When? Has your writing schedule changed during covid? What do you do to combat the temptation to procrastinate–when every day is the same and you know you’ll have lots of time tomorrow, how do you motivate yourself to write today?

Alice Walker said, “whenever you are creating beauty around you, you are restoring your own soul.” And Kurt Vonnegut said, “To practice any art, no matter how well or badly, is a way to make your soul grow.”

So–Let’s paint something. Sew something. Cook something. Play music or move to music. Build something. Create. But most of all, let’s write something.

Can We Enjoy Poems Again?

Do you remember studying poetry in school? Do you cringe?  I think two activities have added to our negative feelings about poetry: the deconstruction exercises we do/have done in school where we are asked to take a perfectly crafted and evocative poem, pull it apart, and point out every poetic device so that we can “interpret” it. And then our understanding of the poem is judged by some little understood yardstick. Often, we are required to bare our souls in the writing and sharing of a poem. 

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